I wanted to create a journal to share my thoughts on moderating and administering the forum.
A bit of background: I've been a member since September 2006; just over 17 years.
(No, I'm not using a magnifying glass to see the keyboard! lol)
I was a card carrying member with paid subscriptions to Maxi and Champagne on TopHeavy in the late nineties.
BustyAmateurs.com and bustyamateurs2.com were hot websites that were on the rise.
Forums and Bulletin Boards were all the rage.
Years later, I stumbled on a brand new forum, among many, called TitsinTops.
It had a handful of members, we were sharing busty women, and we were all there for fun.
In that time, there have been a lot of changes.
Which is to be expected as society, socially accepted behaviour, and technology changes, so to does our little forum.
On a good note, more an more women are open to becoming internet famous, everyone has a cell-phone and is able to record for enjoyment's sake, every busty woman they lay their eyes on.
Unfortunately, as I stated here:
https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index...year-2023-a-summary-and-observation.13551371/
We still have a very small percentage of members that seem to seek out drama. I just don't understand it.
To paraphrase @Friendly Volcano "this site is all about breasts, it should be the happiest place on earth"
Something I'm experiencing with a few members is a stubborn, dug in heels stance of: I am not wrong and I will be heard! It is my right!
To be fair, we see this outside of the forum as well. I'm sure we can all think of examples on Facebook, the government, or some coffee shop downtown. Two people with different views and despite going back and forth over and over, never giving ground, and adamant that they are right. Their perspective/opinion is the only one that is right and any other view or opinion is skewed and wrong.
Certainly, I understand that there is no chance of everyone agreeing on everything. Imagine a world where that was the case?!
But please keep in mind, when you're discussing an issue with Staff, our focus or filter when dealing with issues is the peace and harmony of the forum.
For example, there was recent drama with in this thread: https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index...with-disproportionally-gigantic-boobs.115829/
The majority (95%+) of the issues from this thread involve: she's not skinny.
A quick definition of qualitative thread over quantitative thread:
A Qualitative Thread is like the above 'Skinny Girls with Disproportionally Gigantic Boobs'
This is a descriptive term based on opinion or perspective.
A Quantitative Thread would be titled 'Girls Who Weigh 110-125lbs. with Minimum J-Cup Boobs'
There is no doubt the content to be posted in this thread. It's a fact-based thread; the women must be between a certain weight and a certain minimum cup size.
Yet, people will submit reports and get angry when that report is rejected, or will complain in the thread about posting 'not skinny' women.
These complaints turn into arguments and insults and name-calling.
The members doing these things receive warnings for "No flaming, trolling, abuse or politics." as per the Rules.
https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index...please-read-important-important-important.41/
Which turn into 'arguments and insults and name-calling' with the Staff in PM's.
Which eventually, could lead to a member being banned.
All over pixels. Computer pixels on their monitor or cell phone.
And opinion, they've been banned from probably the #1 Online Boob Forum on the net today, certainly the longest lasting and most diverse a library of content, because they didn't agree with an opinion.
Why? Because of this: I am not wrong and I will be heard! It is my right!
Why risk so much over being right, in your opinion?
Gentlemen, my best advice, which has helped me have a long and happy membership here in the forum is this idea, as quoted by C. Joybell C.
"Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction."
I say again, the goal of the Staff is to maintain the peace and harmony of the forum.
If you disrupt that peace and harmony, it could lead you down the wrong path.
Ptar
p.s. and boobs. The attached is Hitomi Kitamura from this thread back in 2006
https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index.php?threads/hitomi-kitamura-asian.108919/
A bit of background: I've been a member since September 2006; just over 17 years.
(No, I'm not using a magnifying glass to see the keyboard! lol)
I was a card carrying member with paid subscriptions to Maxi and Champagne on TopHeavy in the late nineties.
BustyAmateurs.com and bustyamateurs2.com were hot websites that were on the rise.
Forums and Bulletin Boards were all the rage.
Years later, I stumbled on a brand new forum, among many, called TitsinTops.
It had a handful of members, we were sharing busty women, and we were all there for fun.
In that time, there have been a lot of changes.
Which is to be expected as society, socially accepted behaviour, and technology changes, so to does our little forum.
On a good note, more an more women are open to becoming internet famous, everyone has a cell-phone and is able to record for enjoyment's sake, every busty woman they lay their eyes on.
Unfortunately, as I stated here:
https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index...year-2023-a-summary-and-observation.13551371/
We still have a very small percentage of members that seem to seek out drama. I just don't understand it.
To paraphrase @Friendly Volcano "this site is all about breasts, it should be the happiest place on earth"
Something I'm experiencing with a few members is a stubborn, dug in heels stance of: I am not wrong and I will be heard! It is my right!
To be fair, we see this outside of the forum as well. I'm sure we can all think of examples on Facebook, the government, or some coffee shop downtown. Two people with different views and despite going back and forth over and over, never giving ground, and adamant that they are right. Their perspective/opinion is the only one that is right and any other view or opinion is skewed and wrong.
Certainly, I understand that there is no chance of everyone agreeing on everything. Imagine a world where that was the case?!
But please keep in mind, when you're discussing an issue with Staff, our focus or filter when dealing with issues is the peace and harmony of the forum.
For example, there was recent drama with in this thread: https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index...with-disproportionally-gigantic-boobs.115829/
The majority (95%+) of the issues from this thread involve: she's not skinny.
A quick definition of qualitative thread over quantitative thread:
A Qualitative Thread is like the above 'Skinny Girls with Disproportionally Gigantic Boobs'
This is a descriptive term based on opinion or perspective.
A Quantitative Thread would be titled 'Girls Who Weigh 110-125lbs. with Minimum J-Cup Boobs'
There is no doubt the content to be posted in this thread. It's a fact-based thread; the women must be between a certain weight and a certain minimum cup size.
Yet, people will submit reports and get angry when that report is rejected, or will complain in the thread about posting 'not skinny' women.
These complaints turn into arguments and insults and name-calling.
The members doing these things receive warnings for "No flaming, trolling, abuse or politics." as per the Rules.
https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index...please-read-important-important-important.41/
Which turn into 'arguments and insults and name-calling' with the Staff in PM's.
Which eventually, could lead to a member being banned.
All over pixels. Computer pixels on their monitor or cell phone.
And opinion, they've been banned from probably the #1 Online Boob Forum on the net today, certainly the longest lasting and most diverse a library of content, because they didn't agree with an opinion.
Why? Because of this: I am not wrong and I will be heard! It is my right!
Why risk so much over being right, in your opinion?
Gentlemen, my best advice, which has helped me have a long and happy membership here in the forum is this idea, as quoted by C. Joybell C.
"Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction."
I say again, the goal of the Staff is to maintain the peace and harmony of the forum.
If you disrupt that peace and harmony, it could lead you down the wrong path.
Ptar
p.s. and boobs. The attached is Hitomi Kitamura from this thread back in 2006
https://titsintops.com/phpBB2/index.php?threads/hitomi-kitamura-asian.108919/